In this article, I begin to discuss the seven points of the Integrity Starts Here! recovery program.  The first two points are 1) Honesty, Self-knowledge, and Commitment; and 2) Purifying your Life.  Here I provide a description for each of these points.   Honesty, Self-knowledge and Commitment:  This point focuses on being honest with you...

Eight years ago, when people began coming to me for help with pornography addiction, they were searching for a Catholic recovery program.  I searched everywhere, but could not find one.  After much prayer and discernment, I realized that God was calling me to create one.  Rather than “reinvent the wheel” I decided to research several success...

In this article, I discuss the fifth and sixth characteristics of pornography addiction.   It is used to Escape Negative Feelings.  Here is where we often hear the term “self-medicating.”  Addicts often use pornography as a coping strategy to deal with deep emotional pain.  Often they don’t even realize the pain is there or th...

Once a couple has developed a deep level of romantic love, they usually move onto friendship love.  This is also very important for a happy marriage.  Often when people who have been married for 50 years are interviewed, they are asked what is their secret to a long and happy marriage.  A common answer to that question is “I married my best fr...

Romantic love in a relationship is easy to identify.  It’s when a man and a woman meet and find themselves physically, emotionally and spiritually attracted to each other.  There is a “chemistry” there that cannot be explained.  The two just “click.”  In such a relationship, you find yourself wanting to spend more time with her.  You...

Most men are called to be married, and want a healthy marital relationship.  So, what constitutes a healthy relationship.  To answer this question, many pop psychology books talk about good communication and respect for one another.  Others may talk about a healthy sex life.  I want to take a different approach and talk about love.  In fact, I...

A leader is a person who leads or commands a group, organization, or country.  Becoming a good leader takes time and practice; however, you can start becoming a good leader immediately.  One of the primary ways men can lead is through their example.  When you strive to live a holy and virtuous life, you are providing an example for others on how...

When working with men dealing with a variety of issues, one thing I’ve found they all seem to struggle with is a lack of a sense of mission.  To live a happy, fulfilling and productive life, we need to know our primary purpose, our mission.  For men, that mission is to be effective leaders, providers, and protectors.  This is our nature.  A w...