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Talking At Each Other

This article was previously published in Sword & Spade Magazine. Tommy Killackey discusses the loss of virtuous friendship in our culture of kitsch.   A sunset, an adventure, a tragedy, a profound belief, a moment encountering the sublime: life’s most riveting moments seem to demand from deep within us the need to share them....

02 21 2023

Why I Still Want to Be a Priest After 2018

As 2018 came to an end, and we begin 2019, it was not a glamorous year for the priesthood. In fact, it was one of the most devastating, humiliating, and repulsive years for priests. Through the heinous and unconscionable actions of some clerics, simply wearing a Roman collar in public often gets stares as if I were an accomplice to a network of mon...

02 25 2019

What Makes an Accountability Partner?

In Proverbs 27:17 we read “Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”  I believe this refers to the value of support and accountability. In my work I with men struggling with pornography, I usually recommend they find accountability partners.  This is needed to help achieve and maintain healthy sobriety.  Many ask me who can be a suit...

02 17 2019

Forget Your Network. Make Friends.

By: Colin Murphy As I was leaving college and entering the working world, the most common advice I received was, “It’s not what you know. It’s who you know.” This maxim emphasizes the importance of networking, but it’s problematic. There are many different levels of knowing, and networking often keeps our knowing at the most surface leve...

01 23 2019

Four Qualities for Authentic Friendship

“We asked 100 married men, ‘Who do you talk to first when your wife finds out you’ve cheated on her?’” I heard this question recently on a re-run episode of the classic dinnertime game show “Family Feud.” Funny the things we remember, right? Oddly, I also recall the number one answer was “bartender.” Really? Yep. The number one pe...

06 12 2018

Band of Brothers: The Importance of Authentic Friendship

“The result of these shared experiences [in combat during WWII] was a closeness unknown to all outsiders. Comrades are closer than friends, closer than brothers. Their relationship is different from that of lovers. Their trust in, and knowledge of each other is total.” -p.21 Band of Brothers, Stephen E. Ambrose This quote has swung around in m...

04 07 2018

Friendship Love in a Relationship

Once a couple has developed a deep level of romantic love, they usually move onto friendship love.  This is also very important for a happy marriage.  Often when people who have been married for 50 years are interviewed, they are asked what is their secret to a long and happy marriage.  A common answer to that question is “I married my best fr...

05 31 2017

What Scotch Can Teach Us About Friendship

“Yer not gettin' kayaks” she said in her thick Scottish brogue.  Our bluff as “experienced kayakers,” who could handle the rocky coastal waters off the shore of Scotland, was evidently unconvincing.  As the day’s adventure came crashing down on the rocky shore of reality, we did the only next logical thing - made our way to the Oban d...

12 16 2016

My Wife is Beautiful

DISCLAIMER: You might think I have given a very sweet and thoughtful title to this article. I would like to correct you from the outset. My wife likes to jokingly say that I should write an article about her and how great she is. That is my intention with this article, but my wife is definitely no fan of sappiness. Plus, she already wants to kill m...

11 28 2016

Technology, The Biology of Fatherhood and The Anti-Christ

Recently I saw a preview for a TV show about a band of geniuses saving the world with, ya know, facts and math and stuff. In one scene a divorced mother was explaining her desire to move closer to her son’s father. A lead character (one of the “geniuses”) thought it was a horrible idea.  The emotional mother explained that the boy should be ...

09 20 2016

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