Our passage through life is more diverse in modern times.  The average American switches jobs about every three to five years, and gone are the days of working with the same company for forty years.  A lot of experts have their theory on why we switch so often; I think we simply have more options at our disposal. Regardless, whether we get bor...

When I was laid off in 2009 it was devastating. My ego was severely bruised. I went from making a six-figure income at a prestigious law firm to zero in the blink of an eye. I worried about how my wife and I were going to raise two children and pay our mortgage. The next day my wife was off to work and even my children had things to do. They wen...

I enjoy history, and I am finding Graham Allison’s book, Destined For War, to be a decent read. The book presents a look into the power struggles between established and rising world powers from present day back to the Peloponnesian War. Allison focuses on these confrontations through consideration of Thucydides’s Trap, which is waiting to ensn...

In Fraternus, one of the hardest things to teach or re-teach to men is the art of conversation with young men and boys.  Men are very objective oriented, and our habits of work and education reinforce this – “what’s the mission and the course of action needed.” This simply doesn’t work in conversation, and I can prove it.  If I enter...

“Turn left! Watch out, there is a bomb right next to your elbow!” If you had been on the Father/Son retreat I led out on a farm in Virginia a couple of years ago you would have heard these and similar words as fathers guided their blindfolded sons through a “minefield” as the boys scurried around trying to collect candy. If they bumped into...