Wise Men Look at the Stars
My favorite thing about John Senior, one of the most successful and influential teachers in the last century, is that his success and influence was not in talking about teaching or writing about teaching. If the growing talk about his legacy seems to grow, his post-mortem fame is coming from the fact of his teaching. He’s no John Dewey, famou...
Humility & Study
Men who take on the Exodus 90 challenge are urged to make study a central part of their lives starting at “day 91.” This is very fitting—because Exodus 90, if done rightly, is humbling. Through the experience of discomfort in ascetical practices, struggling to be fervent in prayer, and the challenges associated with fraternity, men who do...
The Three Tiers of Addiction Recovery
People often ask me what the recovery process entails. Especially when dealing with addiction to pornography, there is a desire to be able to recognize progress since it is such a difficult addiction. I often describe recovery as a three-tiered process: sobriety, inner-healing, and transformation. Sobriety: Being sober means no longer usin...
You Cannot Break Addiction Alone
In this article, I continue discussing the seven points of the Integrity Starts Here! recovery program. The next two points are 3) Support and Accountability; and 4) Counseling. Here I provide a description for each of these points. Support and Accountability: To be successful in recovery you will need to surround yourself with other ...
Porn Addiction: A Comprehensive Recovery Program
Eight years ago, when people began coming to me for help with pornography addiction, they were searching for a Catholic recovery program. I searched everywhere, but could not find one. After much prayer and discernment, I realized that God was calling me to create one. Rather than “reinvent the wheel” I decided to research several success...
Dear Class of 2017…
Dear Men of The Class of 2017: Somehow it’s already June, so most of you have been through commencement by this point. Your high school classes, teachers, and friends are already a distant memory. You’re likely enjoying the long summer days doing anything but school work. Many of you are now looking ahead to college, or perhaps a job. You pr...
It Provides The Feeling of Power. It’s A Lie.
In this article, I discuss the seventh and eighth characteristics of pornography addiction. It is Used as a Reward. Pornography addicts can also justify their pornography use by viewing it as a reward. Whether they have been working hard in their career or around the house, they justify their pornography use as a reward for “a job well d...
This Is Your Invitation To Retreat On The Farm
This article is an invitation to St. Joseph’s Farm. For now, this event is limited to Exodus 90 men, preferably groups of brothers that went through Exodus together. Spots are open for Memorial Day weekend, May 26-29. The cost is $280 and includes lodging and food alongside The Green River in Western, NC. My wife and I began our littl...
You Must Encounter Christ Immediately
You must encounter Christ immediately, but it doesn't have to be right away. As with all things, it should happen, and can only happen, in God's timing. Make sense? If not, allow me to explain. Consider this definition of "immediately": "without intervening medium or agent; concerning or affecting directly" (Dictionary.com, 2016). By this defi...
Marriage Will Not Cure Your Lust
When I became a Christian in high school I got involved with the Protestant ministry that introduced me to Christ. This led eventually to me being a “leader” in this ministry and helping to host camps for teenagers. It was wildly formative as I was able to work alongside men, young and old, and learn how they did things, handled challenges,...