The word “vocation” gets sort of abused by both the world and in Churchy-talk.  In the Church we use it to refer only in the sense of the objective states in life of marriage and the priesthood or religious life.  In the world, it usually refers just to a specific skill or job, usually one of humble estate – a “vocational school” is where kids go that want to get to work and maybe not enter full-on academia.  This is often a class matter, or looked down on, as The Charlie Daniel’s Band put so poetically in Long Haired Country Boy: “The rich man goes to college/ The poor man goes to work.”

There’s more to the word vocation than the job on the lower end, and the divine calling and path to salvation on the higher end.  There’s an intermingling of the two in the reality of our lives, in between the soil and the heavens.  For many of us married men, we very often fight to keep them more integrated, because our higher calling is in our home, but that home and all the fixin’s ain’t free.  So we work.  And, yes, work is good an also a means of sanctification.

Old Charlie Daniels has another line in there pertaining to woman, singing again of a societal look-down.  It comes just before the last line about poor men getting to work: “A poor girl wants to marry / and a rich girl wants to flirt.”  In the song it seems clear the poor girl is the one getting married, presumably finding some stability and care but ultimately finding her place and purpose in starting a family.  I wont presume on Mr. Daniel’s take, but our society, by popular thinking at least, would call her a poor girls because she’s stuck at home as a homemaker.

There’s a sadness there. In our vocabulary and way of speaking today we talk about “stereotypes” of women being forced to stay home and do the mindless and menial task of running a home and raising children, but in our efforts to say a woman should be more than a housewife we tell housewives (those that are just a housewife) they are less – poor, poor girls that get married and raise a family.  I’m amazed how often I see some headline of a celebrity mother “defending” her decision to stay home with the kids.  Her wealth obviously allows it, but popular opinion doesn’t.  What is she saying to all of those women that must work – that being at home is… better?  The nerve!  But, on the flipside, many women are made to feel undervalued and guilted for staying home.

To those of a traditional bent, who find a home filled with kids and overseen full-time by a mother a life worth living, you don’t have to defend yourself.  For now, and in many ways still, we are a free country, and you cherish a way of life that has obvious value and deep wisdom.  You can do that unapologetically.  In the company of the common folk, as they say, you are living a good life.  But know this, men: the world inherently values your work in the workforce and devalues the housewife’s work in the home.

The indignity of the “poor girl” that must be a housewife has been presented in public school curriculum for decades.  Sure, some stereotypes might have been around, but it has gone too far.  Charles L. Glenn had a hand in that, and wrote about in a recent First Things article:

Public schools have been driven to engage in what I call “defensive teaching,” lest any student or ­parent—other than white males—be offended by unflattering portrayals of their group. I contributed to this situation in the early seventies when, as a Massachusetts state official, I presided over the development of regulations requiring the examination of all curriculum materials for ethnic or sex-role stereotyping. One response to such requirements was that publishers soon eliminated any portrayals of women as housewives or mothers, presenting them instead exclusively as brain surgeons, pilots, or riveters.

We want to say that women can be surgeons, pilots, and riveters, but it seems we fail to leave open the option of homemaker.  Is it so cliché as to be forbidden?  Glenn also quotes Paul Vitz from his book Censorship: Evidence of Bias in Our Children’s Textbooks, where he found in grades 1-4 “there is not one text reference to marriage as the foundation of the family. Indeed, not even the word marriage or wedding occurs once in the forty books! . . . [N]either the word husband nor wife occurs once in any of these books. . . . There is not one citation indicating that the occupation of mother or housewife represents an important job, one with integrity, one that provides real satisfactions.”  And that review of textbooks was done in the 80’s!

My wife can hardly cultivate a new skill without someone hinting she could start a business with it – ya know, a real job.  Obviously this means making money and putting the kids somewhere else so the money can be made.  There’s also that pesky question I get, “Does your wife work?”  Anyone who’s seen a homeschooling homemaker at work knows she’s giving it to the bone – you just can’t tax it.  I’ve written here before about how progress in society is seen as necessitating the mother’s getting back to real work:

A recent issue of Scientific America ran an article on women in the workforce, and “progress” was tallied by how many women left the home to enter the workforce.  In Marxist thinking, there is no value to moms staying home.  They were aghast at the “notion that women are better caregivers” and painted the clear picture that success “means getting more women to enter (and stay in) the workforce.”  The authors even derided Austria because it allotted too long for maternity leave which tends to lead women – gasp! – to staying home with their little consequences instead of returning to work (September 2017 issue, “Women’s Work” by Ana L. Revanga and Ana Maria Munoz Boudet).  The issue, of course, also featured copious plugs for abortion, because sometimes consequences just need to be taken care of more directly.

Women who stay home do so from a natural and holy urge, but they are made constantly to feel as if they should be doing something of “actual value” out in the world.  Obviously, to a Catholic with even the slightest formation knows the dignity of motherhood is above all other vocations.  There is not a higher work.

St Joseph’s work as a carpenter is filled with all sorts of material for meditation, but he ain’t a mother, and his work could never rise to the dignity of the work of a mother.  The same is true today.  Sure, I can speak about the value of the work that women do outside the home, and about the women who want to be home but can’t.  But many people speak to that.  The world, by and large, is not communicating to housewives and mothers that they are occupying a beautiful and wonderful vocation, an intertwining of toil and love and home that simply has no comparison.  In fact, they are put down, the poor girls.  For that reason, we need to be vocal, clear, and consistent in showing in word and deed the value and dignity of the hardworking mother (see What You Owe Your Wife).

Men, when you see a thing that needs to be done in your sphere, especially when no one else is doing it, you know it is for you to do.  The world is not showing gratitude and admiration to stay-at-home mothers, so you must do it all the more.  Get to work.

  

  • Cheree Hull

    What a beautiful article, and thank you for it. This has been a topic that I have always felt so strongly about! I have been a stay-at-home mom for over 23 years. My husband has always been very supportive of me, as I have been of him. To those mothers that are still in the “younger” years of their family, I want to encourage them–their loving efforts WILL show great fruit on earth and in heaven. I have seen one daughter graduate with a music ed/teaching degree–she now stays home and is doing such an amazing job of raising and teaching their first child. My second daughter finishes grad school this May also with a degree that will work well with the vocation of wife and mother no matter what she decides, though I expect she’ll stay home with the many children she intends to have! My son is currently in one of the top business schools in the country and my other son will be attending West Point in the fall. Yes, we are proud of our children’s accomplishments but what we are MOST proud of are the many compliments we get on their beautiful characters! There were those days, like with any job, years ago when it was pretty hard to see the reward but the days will come when you will see the fruits of your loving “work” and I am forever grateful and in awe at the blessings God has chosen to bestow on our family!

    • Rebecca

      Thank you Cheree!! I’m excited to see the fruits of my labor someday. God bless you!

  • Celeste

    Of course, this piece would have more power if it would take on the current pressures within the Catholic world that tell women that they need to monetize their hobbies and passions. Take Jennifer Fulwiler and her book “One Beautiful Dream” which takes that as its premise – as well as all of the other Catholic Moms of Instagram who disdain a quiet life of building a life for themselves and their family in favor of the side hustle to bring on attention and money.

    • Cheree Hull

      I have certainly never felt that pressure within the Catholic world nor do I see that as pressure by Jennifer. Now, there may have been a short time or two I became aware of putting a little on myself…in which case(s) I would only have myself to “blame” for not trusting in God and the vocation he gave me. I feel the article does a good of job addressing its topic.

  • Karen

    I disdain homemakers for reasons you never address; your wife is your helpless servant. You have a person whose entire existence is devoted to eliminate the shit work of life that you would otherwise have to manage like a real adult. She does nothing that even requires that she know how to read; she experiences the entire world only through your filter. You control every single thing she can do because you control the money. (And please don’t insult my intelligence with the stupid argument that you give her the money when you get paid. You can stop that any time you like but she has no money at all unless you give it to her.) She is utterly and entirely dependent on you and therefore has to cater to your every idiot whim. That is why I want to eliminate ‘housewife’ as any option for women at all — because men don’t deserve slaves.

    • pl1224

      Amen!!!!!

    • Phil Alcoceli

      Karen, welcome to this site. To address your concerns, I’ll mention that someone came around this forum some time ago talking about “toxic masculinity”, a concept just very recently invented to insult our intelligence (that of both men and women), a phrase you obviously are addicted to in order to shut up your opponents. That “toxic masculinity” is actually the very well known “toxic machismo” that all Christians, Catholics and decent men detest (if you can’t see any decent men anywhere is because it’s obvious we can’t see what does not exist in us). That is a play on words that is lowly, dishonest, wicked and helps cover up for the real perpetrators.

      It is very revealing, graphic and very ironic that you treat us just like we were those “helpless servant slave wives” that you supposedly are a heroic advocate of, and that then we are supposed to bow, tremble and submit before you every word. What you describe in your comment is not what we stand for, indeed again, you describe a “toxic machismo” and “toxic household relationship” like the one I saw when I worked with prison inmates for many years. Our women are not our slaves but our pride and joy and they greatly help us become Real True Men and not emasculated, castrated, enabling servants of socialism, marxism, control-freaks and evil.

      My lady does not do the shit work for me, I always clean the bathroom and toilet, very gladly, just like my late father and grandfather before me. The problem is when some of today’s women (and men) fall for straw-man, fabricated, manufactured lies loaded with a trillion tons of radicalized, demonized emotions and feelings, suffocating the world in the satanic excrement of the absolute lust for power and control, the very same thing present in serial killers and serial rapists. Relationships between men and women will never be what they are supposed to be where women (or men) justify their very own personal evil by being infinitely worse that the worst of REAL perpetrators and then turning around and calling it “justice”, “equality”, etc. Bonded together by love, our wives and us don’t bow as slaves before lies, we only bow before Jesus Christ, the One and Only True God.

      • Rebecca

        Thank you Phil for standing up for us! I feel sorry for you Karen. Sorry that you have not been blessed with a gentleman of a husband. I am a stay at home mom of seven. I homeschool and love my “job”. I never feel as a slave to my husband, who works very hard to keep us all happy. We go on regular dates, he helps around the house, helps with kid’s school, gives me my own credit cards, and makes sure I get out of the house to hang with my girlfriends.
        I feel as though my job is just as important and probably more so than my husband’s job. I’m involved in every single aspect of our children’s lives. I’m the most responsible for their wellbeing and how they will be as adults. They are the next generation and we should all be striving to make the world a better place. Certainly not a place where women who stay home to care for the family are considered slaves and do nothing that requires they have an education. I am a wife, mom, chef, teacher, nurse, psychiatrist, and friend. I am awesome!
        God bless you.

      • Karen

        I’m glad you don’t believe yourself to be abused and I’m glad Phil does chores. The fact remains that Phil or your husband could change their minds this afternoon and you would be powerless to do anything about it. The system makes you and Phil’s a helpless dependent regardless of how well you are treated at the moment. Your husband and Phil have all the power in this relationship; that they don’t abuse this power does not change the relationship one tiny bit. Do something to ensure that all housewives have the power to be indepedent of their husbands and I will withdraw my objections.

      • pl1224

        Again, AMEN!!!!!!

      • pl1224

        In addition, may I point out that Karen has written the singularly most important word in this discussion, “power”. In a relationship/marriage in which the man/husband earns all of the money, he will have all of the power that really matters–economic power. Any relationship–especially that of legally binding marriage–between a man and a woman involves the exercise of, and the balance of, socionomic power. When the man is the only one making money that balance of power almost invariably works to the detriment of the woman.

      • Karen

        Thank you. These people think that if they ignore something, that thing doesn’t exist, and also that if they, personally, do not experience something, that thing also does not exist.

      • Rebecca

        In a relationship where money is the most important thing, then yes. If my husband was a man who thought making all the money gave him power, I wouldn’t have married him.

      • tcstrenge

        What was your family life growing up if you don’t mind me asking, Karen? How was your parents’ marriage? Did you have a joyful, peaceful, loving family life where you cared for and served one another? No family is perfect, but I’m speaking generally.

      • Karen

        My childhood was unremarkable. My parents encouraged me to excel in school and always made it clear that I was to have a job and earn my own money, because we observed how men treated their housewives. No human should ever be that vulnerable.

      • Phil Alcoceli

        What a total hypocrite! You say: “My parents encouraged me to excel in school and always made it clear that I was to have a job and earn my own money…” That means your mother was not ever abused but both your parents had no real life so they were eager to have power and control over the the lives of others and that’s where you learned it from!

        Anyone who listens to your snake tongue will become instantly vulnerable to your delusions and make other women vulnerable as well, like a virus, like a plague. It is lies that create vulnerability and weakness and which explains why we have so many so-called “snowflakes” today that want life to be a cushy baby crib forever for them. Jesus-Truth creates True Strength, True Empowerment and True Freedom and you hate all of them. The One who is The Way, The Truth and The Life is your enemy and our Beloved Friend. You have no life in you and that has made YOU vulnerable.

      • Karen

        My mother had a paying job. She wasn’t a housewife. My grandmothers both had independent incomes.

      • Phil Alcoceli

        …Which means YOU didn’t ever get to know what the real worth, the real power, the real worth, the real situation, the real contributions and the brave, selfless love of REAL HOUSEWIVES (including the ones that do work but are not ashamed but proud of also being housewives). You grew up without any of this and it pathetically shows!! You know NOTHING about them, yet you have the brazen insanity to portray every single one of them as “helpeless victims” that need your helpless, useless, dehumanizing, posionous activism. It is YOU who needs mental and emotional help! You are a total liar and a total hypocrite!!

        Repent before Jesus and find what you SO desperately lack in motherly love in Jesus’ Mother, Mary Most Holy! You’ll find in Her the self-worth that you totally lack and which lack you project into other women. Housewives are God’s Masterpiece that brings life. Those who worship the Anti-Culture of Death despise them while worshipping the very lowest women as “celebrities”. By the way, women are also capable of very guilty sinful acts that bring bad consequences back to them just as men do: “Whoever says I have no sin is a liar!” (1 John 1:8). The evidence is everywhere in REALITY thorugh all of history! To portray women as never inviting evil against themselves is an evil fraud designed to protect Political Criminals posing as Society’s Saviors! That’s Criminal Privilege!

      • Karen

        First, if a woman can have a job and be a housewife then the word housewife is meaningless. By that standard I’m a housewife despite being a lawyer because I do almost all of our cooking. (I like to cook and think it’s a necessary and valuable skill.) Second, don’t insult my mother. She loved me and showed me her love by teaching me to be independent.

        Your comments are incoherent rants. You don’t define your terms and when you use a word with an accepted meaning like “housewife” you change the meaning to suit yourself. You grossly insult people, like my parents, based on whatever your fevered imagination belches out instead of seeking evidence. You think that screaming about Jesus’ mother — and FWIW, all the Catholic doctrines about Mary other than that she was Jesus’s mother are baseless and fake — and think that’s going to persuade anyone?

      • Rebecca

        I have a question. You are married then, so do you trust your husband?

      • Karen

        I am married. I trust my husband to be human, and therefore I have my own bank account.

      • Rebecca

        Of course he’s human, he walks, talks, has a brain and can reason. That’s the same trust we have for everyone…that they are human. If you expect to have a good relationship with your husband and have a blessed marriage then you must trust each other completely. Your own bank account leaves no room for trust. A joint account does.
        If course this is all from my Catholic point of view so you probably wouldn’t understand.

      • Phil Alcoceli

        And the infected zit pops!… You’re obviously rabidly anti-Catholic and rabidly anti-Truth, so what are you doing here? Trying to indoctrinate us? Why? You are still not fully convinced of your delusions? I am absolutely convinced of Catholic Truth after being (in the past) a radical like you. I don’t need to harass others with my beliefs, but you do by coming all the way over here to a Catholic website. I am fully convinced of my beliefs, you obviously aren’t. It is you who insults your mother by showing her true face behind your idolatry of her. We only worship Jesus and you absolutely hate that.

        You desperately feed like a parasite on persuading others on what you don’t fully believe, trying desperately to reassure yourself by pushing others to fall away from Authentic Truth. That’s Faith by destruction, a VERY false faith. I am not trying to persuade you, only to speak what you hate SO much, the Truth, and I will continue to do so, whether you are a lawyer, a Supreme Court Judge, or a political assasin, hired to silence the Truth. Satan tried to kill Jesus-Truth but Satan lost, Jesus resurrected. I’ll continue to follow Jesus, Cross and everything, you can continue to follow the Next-Time-Will-Be-Better-Eternal-Loser-Satan!!

      • Karen

        No, I am not Catholic. Your article was linked on an aggregator website I read occasionally, and the title indicated that your article was about the relationship between men and women, which is something in which I have an interest. Your website isn’t restrictive and allows comments, so I posted a comment. If you don’t want anyone to disagree with you, restrict comments or make the blog private, but if you post something on the Internet you have to accept that people will disagree.

        There is a large flaw in your preferred family structure: it puts women at a permanent financial and power disadvantage. The fact that your particular marriage isn’t unjust does not make the system just. All the husbands of housewives I’ve known abused their wives, either by beating them or screaming at them. That’s my experience. Not every marriage is like that I’m sure, but if your experience is valid evidence that your system is good, then my experience is just much evidence that it isn’t.

      • Phil Alcoceli

        I have no problem whatsoever with people disagreeing with me as you would have noticed if you weren’t programmed like a social activist robot clone. What I have a problem with is people like you who have a total bias and blindness to the totality of reality assuming that their Total Manufactured Bias (which you just admitted to right now) is the truth for everyone. You are like Sigmund Freud who assumed rules for everyone by majorly studying those with mental/emotional problems (talk about bias!!). Your “All the husbands of housewives I’ve known abused their wives, either by beating them or screaming at them” sounds like a totally convenient LIE. Where did you live and grow up in so we can go check your “story”? An ex-convict commune? A mental hospital for the criminally insane? Were you into abusive husbands marathon movie watching?

        Your “experience” means nothing as it is totally biased. I dealt daily for years with REAL MONSTERS that would make YOU run and scream for your life and I have NO bias. Indeed, I learned from them to stick to REALITY, which you don’t. Get your head out of that ghetto (or your own self) which, imaginary emotional drama fantasy or not, makes you shut down your brain and make some very rabid, forceful, push-them-down-their-throats false assumptions, which you show here again and again, and you end up pathetically begging Rebecca, an intelligent Catholic woman, for confirmation of your deluded biased state. You will not get any help on that evil enterprise of yours here. Our women are not deluded, emotionally or mentally incompetent women like you. No candy for the fanatically deluded.

        I tell YOU what I heard from a good woman principal in a regular school that I worked at, and who was correcting some teacher very similar to you and which teacher was turning our school into a mad-house sociology experiment: “When you make all those false assumptions and fall madly in love with those assumptions, you become the very first three letters of the world assume. That’s what your false assumptions and bias does. That’s not welcome in this school”. That psychotic, insane, falling-in-love-with-your-own-assumptions is not intelligent, it is evil and it is not welcome here or by any sane, intelligent person either. Otherwise, you are.

      • Rebecca

        I am doing something! I’m being the best Godly wife and mother I can be by raising good young men who will also treat their wives with the respect and dignity they deserve. Also to raise young women who respect themselves enough to be the wife and mother God wants them to be.
        I don’t want to be independent of my husband, I want to be loved and protected in his arms, which is the reason woman was formed from man’s rib. We were not made to do everything a man can do, we were made to do everything a man cannot do!
        God bless!

      • Karen

        And you will be out on your ear with nothing. if your husband decides to throw you out. You are dependent on your husband’s affection and if that changes, you will no longer be able to eat and live indoors, or you will have to depend on having a family member accept half of a failed marriage. You have no protection now if you get sick and can’t work, because the housework is going to pile up for every day you have the flu or the stomach virus. If you get something really serious, then either you find a way to cook immediately after chemotherapy or your family starves. Your husband might step up, but he will always say he’s doing this only as a favor to you. That is my point: you can do everything perfectly and still suffer real physical damage.

      • Rebecca

        You must have been scorned very badly. I’m sorry. I have a nursing degree and could go out whenever I want and make just as much money as my husband. The beauty of a Godly family and belonging to the Catholic church is that there is always someone who will step up in time of crisis. If everyone thought as you did, the world would end because everyone would be selfish and work on only their own well being. No one would get married and have children to bless them and continue on the world.
        God bless!

      • Karen

        No, there isn’t always someone who will step up. You’ve been lucky. Please acknowledge your luck.

      • Cheree Hull

        No one in a sound marriage will ever say it’s due to “luck”. Grace, yes, but that’s something else you don’t seem familiar with. I am sorry for you and the warped idea of marriage you have come to believe. I pray that some day you will come to see and experience marriage as God designed it. God bless and whenever you are ready, the grace will be there waiting. :o)

      • Phil Alcoceli

        You have turned functional insanity into a political tool and you are a tool yourself. By your own admission down below, you never experienced the amazing love of a mother who, working or not, was proud of also being a housewife, of some real mother who wasn’t just a dehumanized political tool. Yet you dare tell a REAL housewife, who is also a nurse, what to do. You don’t reach real women to the bottom of their shoes.

      • Karen

        Your Christian love is showing by how you insult my mother. Seriously, my point stands: the system in which HE has all the money and she has none is inherently and always unjust. Find a way to make that system fair whether or not the husband is a jerk and we can talk about praising housewives. Just because you aren’t a monster does not mean monsters don’t actually exist.

      • Rebecca

        So you are saying everything I do is worthless and nothing about what I do can be praised? If a woman is stupid enough to marry a cruel man and not belong to a good Catholic church, then she deserves to be overrun by men. I was brought up in a very Godly Catholic home and had respect and dignity for myself that demanded it of others or they were not worth my time. Following God and His providential plan is what brought my husband and I together. That ensured me the glorious life I have now, NOT LUCK!

      • Karen

        So you have a good life because of your own wisdom, and women in bad marriages deserve to be miserable. Got it.

        You are all remarkable examples of what we’ve come to expect from Christian churches.

      • Rebecca

        Yes, when you look at WHY they are in those bad marriages. In my experiences, it usually stems from living with someone BEFORE you get married, having a baby out of wedlock or not listening to those around you when they tell you the person really isn’t best for you. I come from a huge extended family (15 aunts and uncles, not counting their spouses, and over 70 cousins). In their relationships, whenever one of those three things was present, the marriage was not happy. I’ve seen it time and time again in my husband’s family as well.
        If we all don’t do things right and foster our children with love, respect and trust, then society will continue to grow worse and the system will never be better.
        I pray that my children are some of the good ones and will do things right and raise good children of their own.

      • pl1224

        Don’t look now dear, but your appallingly hubristic self-righteousness is showing.

      • Karen

        Thank you. Have you noticed that all the comments on this post are “I/ My wife stayed home and our kids are all Ivy League honor students” or some version of that? These people justify their family structure by the fact that it produces children who excel at worldly pursuits. Show me someone who did what they did and ended up with kids who failed at life and then we can talk, because I know plenty of absolute losers who were raised by SAHMs and an even larger pool of ordinary people with the same family background. Christ promised us stregnth in adversity and these people argue that their way avoids any adversity.

      • Rebecca

        Why? Because I know the life I want and how to get it? Because I learned from all the examples and mistakes around me? Or is it because I’m praying for my children? The whole conversation has been me defending my way of living. That it is praiseworthy and not demeaning. Every housewife deserves honor. Not to be called a slave of man who does all his dirty work. That is a complete insult to the life my husband and I share.

      • Karen

        You trust a lot in your own wisdom.

      • Phil Alcoceli

        Yes, I’m showing you the best of Christian Love, yes, indeed!! The most loving act is to give someone the Truth, The Authentic Truth, that is. As Jesus-God said: “The truth shall set you free” (John 8:31-32). “The apple does not fall far from the tree”, shows that it is you who graphically shows the failed state of your mother as mother.

        All you think about is money as an equalizer when the True Equalizers are Respect, Devotion, Selflessness, Sacrifice and Real Love, things you obviously did not get from your mother. Your mother forced you to focus on fanatical, maniacal, delusional activism so you wouldn’t see how she failed you as a mother. That’s the definition of a political tool and you use it to cover your emotional wounds and emptiness from the lack of true motherly love. She made you idolize her so you wouldn’ see her glaring faults. Catholics love but don’t worship people, as God is the only One worthy of total worship.

        You channel that inner hatred towards men, both good and bad, and their money. Your focus on money is dehumanizing YOU. Also, you are SO obssesed and focused on monsters that you are becoming one of them, just like all extreme political tools today. I worked in prisons which included some of the worst of the REAL MONSTERS and I don’t obssess about them but focus on glorifying God that there are SO MANY good and great men, quietly doing what’s right, even if they don’t get the recognition they abolutely deserve. Only very high respect for good men brings the very high respect for good women. United we stand, divided we fall.

        It is by giving very high recognition to those good men, not to the male emasculated political tools, that will bring the downfall of the very real male monsters and the very real female monsters (the ones hiding behind political man-bashing and all the others just happily profiting from that). You don’t erradicate monsters by calling all or most men monsters, that just empowers and glorifies the real monsters, and that’s what you do and that’s evil and disgusting, all in the name of dirty, lowly politics. I highly reccomend that you watch Mr. Jordan B. Peterson in YouTube and read his books so you get the Truth and a good manly role model that you so badly need to REALLY join the fight against ALL real monsters. That’s what Jesus did, what a True Catholic does and that’s what I do! God blesss you!

      • Phil Alcoceli

        Who are you to demand that either of us do anything at all to satisfy your authoritarian demands? Who are you to come with this arrogance as if you were some delusional, almighty god that knows better than anyone what’s good for them or what the real situation is? What is this “system” you speak about that only exists in your hate-clouded mind? You obviously are a Marxism poisoned individual, seeking power and profit in stirring class-gender-etc. envy, strife, hatred and division. You have no auhtentic authority or legitimacy whatsoever.

        You cowardly hide behind those wives in toxic relationships to peddle your cheap, poisonous wares. You deviously use the blood of those real victims as cheap human shields. No one hates women more than you do. You talk about “slave helpless wives” before their cold-blooded “dictator husbands” because that is what YOU ARE, serving your ideological abusive husband, Satan. By your own choice, no one is more helpless than you. It is satanically abused women like you who reject the True God that generate the most evil in the world, as seen in many abused Muslim women, who still decide to commit to false god and are infinitely more evil than their supremely abusive husbands. Evil begets evil.

      • Karen

        You make a lot of assertions without any evidence. Your diatribe does not change the fact that those toxic relationships exist. If you think women ought to be strictly confined to domestic duties, then becomes your duty to ensure that women don’t suffer from that confinement. You have to address those toxic males. You should create a system that allows women to leave toxic men without blaming the women for their husbands’ brutality.

        The pattern of the churches and males throughout history to simply blame wives when their husbands beat them, and everything I see here indicates that you will follow that pattern. You never even acknowledge that the pattern of your own marriage cannot be duplicated everywhere. You never note that you have the power to change your mind kick your wife out of your home with nothing. If you won’t even note the existence of this power, why should anyone who sees such an obvious fact trust you on anything else?

      • Phil Alcoceli

        It is YOU who makes a lot of funny farm, mental asylum assertions without the barest of evidence and then PROJECT (your favorite Saul Alinsky strategy) your lowly scum on others (like chimps flinging their own poo at others). That just reveals you as a chimp not as someone who need to be heard or believed. Where are those hordes of “suffering wives” you talk about? Where? With all the many laws, lawyers, false “advocates” like you, and protection existing today for women, they would be coming out by the hundreds of thousands but all that happens is…cricket sounds… They are more concerned with enjoying their life than with have-no-life radicals like you.

        There’s absolutely NO EVIDENCE of what you say, except for the same-old-same-old toxic relationships, whose true suffering women’s blood you squeeze hard to manufacture a non-existing crisis to make yourself a Very False Savior and Very Hypocritical Redeemer. You totally ENVY the True God Jesus Christ and His Church. Women have been leaving men since the beginning of time and especially leaving those evil men who, like you, fabricate worlds of fantasy to USE them and ABUSE them as cheap, dehumanized pawns of socialism, marxism, satanism and control freaks like you. YOU are the one here attacking and savaging wives who are the greatest treasure of this country or any other and of which you are totally ENVIOUS of. Our wives are our Power and you want to kill them. You fit the definition of a murderer

        The USA would have NEVER become the greatest Nation in the world in less than 300 years with a pattern of wives abuse. Ever!! No nation has ever done that in all of History and that’s EVIDENCE, even more solid today. Solid, long time, historical evidence. To assert the contrary is preposterous, dishonest, with total disregard for the TRUTH and is functionally criminally insane. Your assertion against all evidence that: “You never note that you have the power to change your mind kick your wife out of your home with nothing”, shows a pattern of that same criminal insanity, trying to make me accept something that does not exist in order for you to assume a totally false authority and false legitimacy you don’t ever had or will ever have. That’s why you ENVY and attack the Catholic Church, its men and women. Jesus has crushed impostors like you, Saul Alinsky, George Soros, etc. for 2,000 years and will continue to happily do so. Now that’s evidence and recycled impostors and false saviors like you should never be trusted!!

      • Phil Alcoceli

        Rebecca, you are so very welcome!! I am extremely humbled, blessed and honored to know awesome great housewives like you!! Yours is the absolute most important, most valuable, most necessary, most vital and most productive job ever on the face of this planet and in all of history and into eternity. Children get their start inside the physycal womb of your holy bodies and continue their high calling from God in the outside womb under your blessed, brave, selfless and holy care. Both wombs are under demonic, savage attack today.

        I have always said that women don’t need to get into a criminal-like lust for power and control because the greates power is already in you, wonderful ladies, to bring forth true men and true women of God in your children. You are truly God’s Womb of Salvation and Redemption to the world, continuing in a similar way the Most Holy Virgin Mary’s role as the Most Holy Ark of the New Covenant. Come mockery, suffering, torture or death, we bow in humble service to God in you, THANK YOU!!!

  • Phil Alcoceli

    Thank you, Mr. Craig! I read your article before heading out very early to the supermarket. Before leaving the store I always take a quick look around on the magazine rack at my favorite ones. When I looked at the top row, I almost throw up (a healthy, holy sense of repulsion and disgust is indispensable to true Catholic humility). By the way, I look at things through the Jesus Lens exclusively, not the political lens, as both major sides are corrupted (one more than the other). There on the cover of Rolling Stone were Nancy Pelosi, Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Rep. Jahana Hayes, and Rep. Ilhan Omar, with the subtitle: “Women Shaping the Future”. If these are the “top” women in the USA then we are a laughing, mock-worth apocalyptic disaster. Why only four? I guess Satan wants these to be the Four Riders of The National Apocalypse.

    How do you get to such lowly, repulsive, God-hating and, at the same time, glorified extremes? By glorifying cartoonish evil extremes as very holy virtues (false heroism, false justice, false compassion, false inclusiveness, etc.) and by degrading the Real Women, especially housewives, and making men complicitly silent (see Adam in Genesis). Instead of that evil magazine cover, I would include a group of selfless, loving, mama bear housewives, the True Heroes and Power of Society and History since time ever began. I would also erase Mount Rushmore faces and, again, sculpt four faces of the greatest housewives in history (the ones that help men become Real True Men). It was a Most Holy Housewife who became the Ark of the New Covenant of Salvation and Redemption to the world. Her imitators still bring that Holiness and that’s why they are so attacked, ridiculed and mocked. Most Holy Housewife Mary taught us how to stop being a cartoon of humility in the Wedding at Cana. Time for all of us, women and men to imitate her. All extremes are sinful, including extreme humility!!

  • Amen brother. My wife too stays at home to watch our little guy and it works out for us both. If accolades indicated who should work, well she should then. She graduated, while pregnant, with Suma Cum Lade honors at her university and then decided to stay home. The amount of backlash she receives is crazy and I’m shocked that the housewife is not regarded in a higher light. What a gift it has been to know that my son is being raised by her and not some stranger for most of their childhood.