by Craig Taffaro

As in all things, Christ Jesus models perfection in fulfilling the commandment to honor thy father and mother. The Catholic man finds in the life of Jesus, and in the Lord’s reverence of Mary and Joseph, a model for honoring God the Father, honoring his earthly parents and a model for respecting earthly authorities.

Although the Gospels provide relatively small glimpses into the hidden life of the Holy Family, the glimpses are still rich with insight. In the second chapter of Luke’s Gospel, after having searched for the boy Jesus for three days, Mary and Joseph find Him in the temple amongst the teachers:

And he said to them, “How is it that you sought me? Did you not know that I must be in my Father’s house?” And they did not understand the saying which he spoke to them. And he went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them. (Luke 2:49-51, RSV, emphasis added)

Jesus, the incarnate Lord of all, shows here that the divine plan includes humble deference to one’s parents. Even while He was about His Father’s work, even while His parents lacked understanding, Jesus subjected Himself to the discipline of obedience. Luke closes this passage with a parallel to the promise made in the fourth commandment: “And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature, and in favor with God and man” (Luke 2:52). Obedience to one’s parents brings with it the promise of both spiritual goods (increase in wisdom and favor with God) and temporal goods (increase in stature and favor with man).

The commandment to honor one’s father and mother extends to honoring other earthly authorities who, by God’s will, have been made stewards of His goods. Jesus teaches His disciples, “Render to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s” (Mark 12:17). By His life, the Lord shows that His followers are to live peacefully, not only with each other but also with the rest of civil society; this is the law of charity. Since all authority comes from God the Father, being “subject to the governing authorities” for the Lord’s sake, gives glory to God (Romans 13:1).

As a boy, Jesus honored His parents through perfect obedience. As a young man, Jesus honored His parents through His labor in Joseph’s workshop. As the crucified Lord, Jesus honored His mother by giving her as Mother of all Christians. As the Head of the Church, Jesus honored His earthly father by giving Joseph to the faithful as a spiritual father. The King of the universe subjected Himself to man that man might be saved. Man, too, is commanded to subject himself to others under the law of charity that he may be like Christ.

Honoring our parents is not only the fourth commandment, but is the beginning of the humility that reveals and submits to the authority of God and the good order of society.

06 / 25 / 2021
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