Tom was noticeably upset as he described his frustration with pornography use.  It seemed that every day at work he would end up going online and viewing pornography.  No matter what he tried, he always seemed to fall into the same pattern.  For Tom, the root causes of his internet porn use were boredom, isolation, and access to the internet. A...

Preparing our sons for manhood can be a daunting task, especially when it comes to teaching them about life and sexuality.  We want to protect them from pornography, inform them about the changes they will experience in puberty, and teach them about healthy sexuality. Fathers often ask me where to find good resources to accomplish these tasks wit...

My Story I’m a cradle-Catholic. The middle child of 7 born to a Catholic mom and dad in the Midwest. Indiana, to be precise. Growing up, Catholicism was everywhere. We went to mass almost every day and, if we didn’t, it usually meant hell was freezing over. I was homeschooled K-12 and we used Seton Home Study School, which means I was mor...

Paul was very discouraged when he came in to his counseling session.  He had fallen again into pornography use and masturbation.  He felt he would never overcome this vice in spite of the progress he had made.  When he began recovery, he was viewing porn and masturbating daily.  Now he was falling into it about once a month.  His hopelessness ...

Bill and Sandy came to my office with their son Kevin, age 15.  Kevin was addicted to Internet pornography.  He had been viewing it daily on his smartphone for over four years.  Along with viewing pornography, Kevin was masturbating daily.  The first time Bill and Sandy caught Kevin, they believed it was just an adolescent phase and that he wou...

By: Dr. Kevin Kilcawley “It is useless to subdue the flesh by abstinence, unless one gives up his irregular life, and abandons vices which defile his soul.” St. Benedict of Nursia Late one evening, I was working with a client of mine who had been struggling with a longstanding pornography addiction. He came into my office, sat down, and told...

It’s important for men to understand how their pornography use can affect their wives.  What might seem like innocent “adult entertainment” can actually cause untold damage to wives.  Discovering their husband’s use of pornography can be the most emotionally painful thing a woman ever experiences. Trauma For many wives, this intense...

I often speak to men who have had several months of successful sobriety, and then slip back into pornography use.  They often come to me feeling like hopeless failures, that all the progress they’ve made is down the drain.  These slips are common.  My advice is not to get discouraged when this happens.  Use them as learning experiences to str...

As with any addiction, a tolerance develops with pornography addiction.  More of the substance is needed to get the same effect.  Thus, soft porn becomes boring and no longer stimulating.  Here is where a man may move onto more hardcore forms of pornography, including pornography that depicts deviant and violent forms of sexuality.  He may also...

For many teenagers, pornography is their primary source of sex education.  This is because the sex education they are getting at home and/or in school is inadequate.  They may learn about puberty, conception and birth, contraception and sexually transmitted diseases, but they learn nothing about God’s plan for sexuality and healthy relationship...