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The Recovery Honeymoon

Vince recently called my office seeking help for his struggle with pornography addiction.  This was not the first time I spoke with him.  A few months earlier he called at the insistence of his wife.  Vince had a longstanding struggle with Internet pornography use that spanned years.  We talked about his use of pornography and how addictive it ...

01 18 2020

Jesus Wants to Heal You

Do you actually believe that Jesus wants to heal you? Or is that phrase simply some kind of pious sentiment. In the course of our lives we have all experienced suffering to one degree or another. However, when that suffering becomes prolonged and shows very few signs of progress, it is very easy to become disheartened and doubtful. In fact, it beco...

02 20 2019

Sexual Intensity Does Not Fix Intimacy Problems

When Lou was confronted about his use of Internet pornography, his excuse was that he was tired of the “vanilla” sex he was having with his wife, Roberta.  He claimed he needed more excitement in the bedroom.  This left Roberta feeling both angry and sad.  She felt as if Lou was blaming her for his pornography use.  She also felt inadequate...

02 02 2018

Let’s Talk About Sex: Moral Decay and Hope

Pope Benedict XVI once famously wrote: “What earlier generations held as sacred, remains sacred and great for us too...” The Holy Father’s wise statement was made in the context of allowing for wider use of the Traditional Latin Mass, although his words can be applied more broadly. This maxim is nowhere more evident than in the shamefully fla...

11 27 2017

Healthy Sexuality for Couples Facing Sexual Addiction

When I work with couples facing sexual addiction, they often question how they should address being sexual in their marriage.  Some spouses may want to maintain their marital sex life and others may want to avoid it altogether.  While a healthy sex life is important for any marriage, when recovering from sexual addiction there is much healing nee...

10 09 2017

The Three Tiers of Addiction Recovery

People often ask me what the recovery process entails.  Especially when dealing with addiction to pornography, there is a desire to be able to recognize progress since it is such a difficult addiction.  I often describe recovery as a three-tiered process: sobriety, inner-healing, and transformation. Sobriety: Being sober means no longer usin...

10 03 2017

Where is God in Addiction Recovery?

People often wonder where God is when they struggle with an addiction.  Many of the men I work with who struggle with pornography addiction have prayed fervently for God to take it away.  However, they feel their prayers have fallen on deaf ears because they continue to struggle.  Some believe that God doesn’t even care about them.  They beli...

05 14 2016

Freedom from Pornography Addiction Is Possible! It Begins with Understanding Its Causes.

Pornography is a big problem in our society, particularly among young people. What many people don’t realize is how addictive pornography is.  We now have the neuroscience evidence to show us that pornography is an addictive substance.  Many experts call Internet pornography the new crack cocaine. So how is pornography addictive?  Well, whe...

04 14 2016

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